Humble Pie
There is all this talk about the fall ball. I being the typical guy am usually not bothered with this kind of stuff. Let alone don't let on that anything bothers. I try to keep this thing clear of weird high school romance and school girl feelings, yet most of my friends here are women and being the emotional putty that I am. I take on the same feelings as those around me (sometimes, when I decide to have emotions) My stress is not so much in getting asked cause I am the one in doing the asking. The issue lies in who. I know this is a crappy problem but it is a real one let me explain. The guys here for the most part are cowards. I don't blame them for there are many pretty girls here and it's easy to lose ones nerve. This how ever leaves allot of women that feel unloved and unattractive. I want to help many of them, but in this cause I can really ask but one. How can I decide who best needs a night out. I have tried to just go with feelings by asking girls who I got the urge to when talking to them. I am now 3-0. I had a roommate awhile back that said I was a post-masochism. I agree totally for when they turned me down after a little while I felt glad that I have another chance. I don't know where I am going with this and I got to go to the bathroom.
posted by Judge of the Whetten's at 1:45 PM
3 Comments:
Once you've gotten yourself settled with whoever you decide to ask who accepts, you could "encourage" some of the other guys to just ask someone...what could it hurt? Even if the girl says no, she can at least have the knowledge that someone was considerate enough to ask her, ya know? Anywho, that's how I think you can try to help out all those poeples (yes...poeples). :)
I always appreciate your thoughts, Judge.
I think the reason why many guys don't ask girls out to the ball, besides financial reasons, is because they prefer not having to deal with the dilemma of choosing one girl over another. Unless they already have someone specific in mind, they just don't go. Saves money, saves trouble and saves hurting the feelings of any girl who did not get to go.
There are ways to escape such an uncomfortable situation. 1) Decide to go in a big group, as friends, no need for pairing off, and everyone pulling their own weight where money is concerned. Or the guys could cover the girls to be nice. Whatever.
2) Decide NOT to go in a big group, but plan something cheap and fun instead.
3) Make a list of girls that you feel need to be asked to the ball, find the same ammount of guys to ask them, randomly assign dates if neccessary.
Anything that is done in a group takes stress off social situations.
I personally think that every girl deserves to be asked to the ball, but I hope that feelings of being unloved and appreciated don't stem from NOT being asked. Girls who use that as an excuse to feel rejected probably already do all the time anyway. It's not your moral duty to feel sorry for them and ask them out.
I'd rather be asked out because the guy thinks I am attractive and fun, anyway.
Let me start by saying I am against going to Fall Ball. Back home I wouldn't have been as opposed, in fact I'd probably have a date by now, but that's because I'd grown up in the same stake for the last 15 years and have spent at least the last year getting to know all the YSA so I feel more comfortable around most of them and it's just easier to find someone who is just a good friend that I can go with. Over here I've known pretty much all the people here less than three months and I feel that asking any girl would mean that she thought I liked her, since there hasn't been a whole lot of time to get a lot of close friends. And if I do ask a close friend then you have to worry about all your other friends thinking you like her as more than a friend, which is childish and immature I know, but we are guys after all. Then, of course, there's the inevitable rejection(s). And like you guys said, it's cheaper and less painful not to go if you don't already have a girlfriend (in which case it's merely less painful). Some fun and cheaper alternative sounds better (Finding Neverland does look cool), but I mean I would like to go to the ball too, because it'll be a different experience, movies can be seen anytime. My suggestion? Well I'm a strong believer in womens rights, so I'd like to see some girls do the asking, it'd take a heck of a lot of stress for the guys at the very least.
And Stuff,
~Vasu~
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